Men are losing dating games because there’s no one to play with, or at least that’s how it feels since, for many women, priorities have shifted. There is no grand plan or scheme – most women feel love is a losing game, so they changed the rules. But there’s more to it, and we will dive into the main reasons women quit dating.
It got too risky
It might seem exaggerated, but the past decade showed an increase in domestic violence. Things only worsened during the pandemic. The majority of men are not abusers, and women understand that, but the risk of stepping into one’s trap has gone up, statistically speaking.
It can be exhausting
You might feel exhausted if you try dating multiple people at once, only to improve your chances of picking the right guy. It is like a never-ending job interview, and let’s not forget that women are not great at choosing. When we see two pairs of overpriced heels, what do we do? We get both pairs.
Too many bad experiences
Not all bad experiences involve abuse, cheating, or lying. Sometimes, a woman tracks a specific type, like guys looking for mom replacements. After dating a few of these guys, she has every right to feel that dating might not be for her. They know there are good guys out there, but they don’t have the energy to look for that unicorn.
Knowing your worth
Men and women work at least 40 hours per week, but only one is expected to do all house chores and prepare meals. If you add children to that mix, it appears that women work all the time, but they only get paid for one job. Yes, we asked to work, but this is not how equality works.
MGTOW
Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW) is a real movement, and it promotes often misguided and misogynistic rhetoric to fight feminism. Even if a few hundred thousand men decided to remove themselves from the dating scene to protect the manosphere, it makes women wonder whether others would be on their side if they were forced to choose.
The bar is too low
Women with careers are looking for men who will be partners. But, they are tired of hearing they have high standards. What if the problem isn’t women’s standards but that the bar for a male companion is too low? There are many expectations from a modern woman, and yet she should settle for a bare minimum. For example, he has a job, or he likes kids.
Rejecting societal norms
Some women do not want to get married or have kids because they have other goals or satisfactions. This is not a new concept, but it is still frowned upon. That’s why they will go on a couple of blind dates only to confirm they do not want to settle. We still live in a world where it is believed that being single and happy is impossible, but forcing something on yourself would be even worse.
Financial independence
With financial independence comes freedom of choice that previous generations of women did not experience. This does not mean women stopped dating because they can buy things for themselves; instead, they can choose because they don’t depend on anyone. This means that a woman can be kind of dating but choose not to get attached.
Modern relationships are disappointing
For many women, it is too much work and effort for a tiny reward. Modern dating is shallow and superficial, and women who seek intimacy and long-term commitment feel disappointed. The dating poll is too broad, with apps and social media, but that only makes it harder to pick a man with similar values.
The best ones are taken
It is simple: men come to a certain age, and if they are genuine, they won’t have any problems settling down because there is no stigma regarding men and the ages of their mates. According to an income, housing, and marriage survey by the Bureau of Statistics in Australia, one in three degree-educated 35-year-old men marry or live with women aged 30 or younger.
The ones that got away
Some younger women are willing to settle down earlier, others not so much. If a woman loses a man who checks all her boxes because she is not ready for a lifetime commitment, she will give up a fairytale ending. That’s why many women in their 30s and 40s have thriving careers but are not dating.
Self-development over dating
Many women would rather invest time in themselves than go out on dates. They can be career-driven, willing to learn a new instrument, spend time with friends, work on their self-esteem, or do anything that brings them joy and a sense of accomplishment.
Dating etiquette
What happened to flowers, endless first dates, talking without holding phones, holding hands, and not having to have the talk to define the relationship? Instead, a staggering 70 percent of women experienced ghosting, even after years of dating, so it feels like men gave up on romance, and therefore, women backed down.
Social media pressure
Social media is one of the things that killed modern romance. There is the pressure of being a perfect couple, of looking a certain way, or even fear about previous posts. It creates an unhealthy environment, especially if a woman’s prior experiences were not envious.
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