Aging is similar for all people, yet some things separate how older men see the world compared to older women. With age, we gain wisdom, and since we know we can’t stop the clock, there are many things we are less tolerant about. Here are prime examples of what older men refuse to tolerate, and it might help you understand your fathers and cousins better.
Loud places
There are scientific reasons why older adults prefer a peaceful environment. They find it harder to filter out distractions than when they were younger. It was also noticed that many restaurants and bars are playing louder music these days, making conversations impossible. Aging also affects hearing sensitivity, so if you hear a senior complaining about the noise, try to be more understanding.
Technological advancements
Men are used to knowing how to fix things in the house, but smart microwaves or refrigerators are relatively new technologies, so these advanced appliances might leave them feeling useless. Keeping up with current technologies can overwhelm younger generations, but it is especially troubling for older people. They do not want to bother others to explain, yet they are in uncharted waters, so it should not be surprising that they are not big fans of the latest technologies.
Gaining weight
Men usually don’t think about weight as much as women, but this becomes an issue with age and slowing metabolism. Even worse, doctors might advise them to go on a diet to lower cholesterol or avoid type 2 diabetes. Proper nutrition and exercise are necessary for those who want longevity and a better life, but they often require drastic lifestyle changes, and many men are not thrilled about them.
Driving
Most men have been drivers for the better part of their lives. However, with age, hearing and eyesight change, as do our reflexes. Though many would never give up driving because it is part of their independence, the noise, young, inexperienced drivers, road rage, and traffic can be overwhelming.
Hair loss and gain
First, they saw their locks turn grey. Then, these men noticed how their hair was thinning and, often, disappearing. Instead, they got hair in all the wrong places, like in the noses and ears. Even men who feel great at 60 or 70 are greeted with unwelcoming sights whenever they look into mirrors. It is a constant reminder that they are aging, which makes it all that more irritating.
Libido problems
Though completely natural, men see the loss of libido as a sign that someone has taken their masculinity away. Men go through andropause, which is similar to menopause but less discussed. It includes a gradual decrease in libido due to the lowering of testosterone. One of the ways to improve testosterone levels is by doing aerobic and weightlifting training. However, many senior men prefer to take pills, which can, in some situations, be fatal.
Loss of independence
Men of certain ages, especially from the Boomer generation, are often prideful. That makes their loss of independence intolerable. They believe asking for help is a sign of weakness, so they struggle in silence. If you notice your aging father or neighbor struggling, try talking to them with empathy and kindness.
Men’s fashion
After decades of wearing their best suits and spending hours in mostly uncomfortable shoes, men want to be comfortable. But that’s tricky with current fashion trends. They want to look decent, or at least decent enough, but finding the right fit in a world where young men wear dresses to brunch can be overwhelming and aggravating.
Changing relationships
We established that men are not big on change, so realizing their old friends are not as they once were can be devastating. However, making new friends is easier for women. That’s why older men tend to try finding new romantic partners, but if that backfires, they tend to isolate, which is unhealthy and can take years off their lives.
Media portrayal
If there’s one thing that irritates older men, it is how the media sees them. They have every reason to feel agitated, and that is because there are too primarily many negative stereotypes. Some show older men as so superficial that they only chase girls in their 20s. Others see them as cranky, but no one honestly deals with their feelings and shows the complexity of staying positive while going through many life-changing decisions and events.
Going to the doctor’s
Men tend to avoid doctor’s appointments and even take medications. The resistance is because they are uncomfortable with exams, fearful of a diagnosis, and struggle to remove their “I am the man” attitude. Men do not want to feel vulnerable at any age, and going for regular check-ups is necessary, but it does not make it any less tolerable.
Young people’s music
Even younger generations will agree that the best music comes from older decades. But, for older men, this is especially true since most of them grew up listening to legends, many of whom are no longer with us. They dreamed of becoming rockers, and some are so invested in music that it is their favorite hobby. However, their tolerance is below zero when it comes to new music.
Discussing politics
As creatures of habit, men will most likely vote for the same party as they did for decades. That’s why they do not like younger people sharing flaws in their thinking. Younger folks often tend to be aggressive in their approach and too progressive for an aging Boomer. They believe young people are condescending and disrespectful, not because they think differently but because they want them to give up their habits.
Doing things just because
Many men struggle when they retire because they feel useless. Their work gave them purpose, so they despise doing something just because it is good for them. They would rather sit and watch Law and Order than volunteer or find new hobbies. Those with hobbies, from music to fishing, have a significant advantage in their senior years.
Being called “elderly”
According to an MTurk and Prolific survey, most seniors hate the term “elderly.” Men also dislike being referred to as “ancient” or “old-timers” or being portrayed as “conspiracy theorists” or “culturally insensitive.” Surprisingly, not even “silver fox” works for the majority of men, so “retirees” or “older men” will have to do.
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