Sometimes, women say things that don’t quite match up with what they’re really thinking. They might say one thing but mean something entirely different, even the exact opposite. Let’s explore the most common ones.
‘Sorry, What?’
What she actually means: I caught every word. This is your moment to rethink and maybe tweak what you just said. But just so you know, I’m already taking your initial statement as the cold hard truth.
‘Nothing’
What she actually means: Everything. Literally, everything is wrong. I’m a simmering pot of emotions on the verge of boiling over, just waiting for you to ask me what’s wrong about ten times before I finally crack and give you a one-word answer.
‘I’m Fine’
What she actually means: Absolutely not fine. Upset, angry, annoyed, or a combo. The catch? I won’t spell it out for you. It’s a bit of a mystery for you to solve as a punishment.
‘I Don’t Mind’
What she actually means: I do mind. I have a clear preference, but I’m curious to see if you can guess it. It’s a test of how well you know me. Choose wisely or prepare for a cold front.
‘Nice Shirt’
What she actually means: Hello, muscles! That shirt is doing you all kinds of favors. Keep dressing like that, and I’ll keep noticing.
‘Can You Watch the Kids?’
What she actually means: Please make everyone dinner, bathe the baby, read bedtime stories, help with homework, and put everyone to sleep. It’s not just “watching”; it’s actively engaging in all the evening routines that you probably don’t want to do.
‘I’m Not Arguing’
What she actually means: I’m just going to keep repeating myself over and over again, explaining in subtly different ways why I’m correct until you give up.
‘I Love You’
What she actually means (after intimacy): Wow, was that fireworks? Because I’m feeling something intense. Might be love, might be the afterglow. Either way, you’re amazing.
What she actually means (any other time): You, sir, have officially stolen my heart. You’re the one for me. I’m in love!
‘We Need to Talk’
What she actually means: I’ve got something on my mind, and I need you to just hear me out, take it all in, and agree with me. There’s a problem that’s been bothering me, and about none other than you.
‘We Should Hang Out Sometime’
What she actually means: Why haven’t you asked me out yet? I’m dropping hints like crazy and you still haven’t taken any. Let’s make this official already!
‘You Don’t Need to Buy Me Anything?’
What she actually means: If you really love me, you’ll figure out what’s the perfect gift for me. Include a thoughtful card, chocolate, perfumes, clothes, and please, please, expensive jewelry. If you’re unsure what I like, ask my best friend, my mother, or one of our very young daughters — figure it out!
‘How Do You Know Her?’
What she actually means: I want the full backstory of this woman—her age, her family, her circle of friends, and if she’s got a boyfriend. I’m gonna also need her full name to do a thorough social media investigation. Yes, insecurity’s got the best of me, and you need to boost my spirits by affirming I’m more beautiful than her, and I mean now!
‘I Mean I Could Eat’
What she actually means: I’m starving, but I won’t admit it directly so you don’t judge me. Your mission is to quickly pick a spot where we can eat, preferably with bread on the table, immediately.
‘I’m Not Really Looking for a Relationship Right Now’
What she actually means: I’m totally up for spending time together and perhaps taking things further, but I’m still flipping through the pages of my past, working to wrap up a few chapters that weren’t exactly fun.
‘I Am Not Looking for Something Serious’
What she actually means: I’m keeping my option open, just in case. But you’re a great plan B. Stick around, but don’t get too comfy.
‘I Don’t Post Who I Date on Social Media’
What she actually means: Our time together is our little secret. I’m all for fun and games, but let’s not broadcast it. Gotta keep my options and DMs open, you know?
‘I Need Space’
What she actually means: Emotion overload. I need a breather to sort through this tornado of feelings. It’s not you, it’s me needing a time-out.
‘I Didn’t Even Like Him That Much Anyway’
What she actually means: I liked him, more than I’d like to admit. He disappointed and hurt me, and now I’m trying to act as if he didn’t. Pass the vodka, please!
‘I Am Not Sure Where Our Relationship Is Going’
What she actually means: I’m on the fence here, doing some serious thinking about us. There’s a good chance I’m leaning towards an exit strategy. Just giving you a heads-up that I might be about to leave.
‘I’m Dying’
What she actually means: Hunger level: extreme. I’m fantasizing about a huge meal fit for a queen. So, how about we skip the chit-chat and you take me away to the nearest food paradise?
‘We’ll See’
What she actually means: You don’t seem to be picking up on my signals, and I’ve been sidestepping plans with you to avoid hurting your feelings by saying ‘no’ directly.
‘Leave Me Alone’
What she actually means: Don’t ever leave me alone, only hit pause and give me a moment. But, be ready to get back with lots of hugs and apologies. It’s not a goodbye, it’s more of a ‘brb’.”
‘I’m Not Mad’
What she actually means: I’m steamed. But, I’m not giving you the satisfaction of knowing why. Yeah, that’s what you deserve.
‘I’ve Been Busy’
What she actually means: My interest in making plans with you is sitting at a solid zero. I’ve prioritized just about everything else over catching up. Please don’t ask me when we can hang out together again.
‘I Don’t Know What I Want to Eat’
What she actually means: I’m on a culinary rollercoaster. One minute it’s burgers, the next it’s pasta, and now I’m curious about that new Asian spot. Decision-making is hard. Can you make it for me?
‘I Really Miss You’
What she actually means (if you have been dating for a while): I miss us, the laughs, the moments. Let’s make more memories, babe.
What she actually means (if you’re not in a serious relationship but have hooked up a few times): “Our last night? Yeah, I want a replay of that. Soon.”
‘It Doesn’t Even Matter Now Anyway’
What she actually means: It matters, a lot actually. The issue has grown, taking over my thoughts and impacting each and every single day, but my ego won’t admit it.
‘I’m on My Way/Stuck in Traffic/Just Running Out of the Door’
What she actually means: I’m still at home, and I’m nowhere near ready. I need a good two hours to make it out the door, and that’s not even touching on the whole eyeliner session, which will surely add another hour before I just wipe it off. So, hopefully, you’re comfortably seated somewhere.
‘Whatever, I’m Over It’
What she actually means: Far from over it. I’m aiming for an illusion of being unbothered, while in reality, I’m planning a solo pity party complete with wine and chocolates.
‘I Don’t Want to Ruin Our Friendship’
What she actually means: Dating you has never crossed my mind, like, ever. It’s not happening. But hey, you’re a great friend and I wouldn’t trade our friendship for awkwardness. So, let’s not complicate things, okay?
‘Fine, Just Do What You Want’
What she actually means: Anything but fine. Proceed with your plan at your own risk. And get ready for the grave consequences or wisely reconsider.
‘It’s Not You, It’s Me’
What she actually means: It’s absolutely you. But let’s soften the blow with that famous line people use when they’re breaking up, okay?
‘You Don’t Have to, But …’
What she actually means: If you choose not to, you might just find yourself single very soon.
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